HELP! I hate my in-laws and am pregnant!?

You are not alone! When I first met my mil, we got along very well, then once her son started growing up and became a dad and a husband, she changed so much! We now are great but that is because there are boundaries! Now what needs to happen, is your husband really needs to put his foot down, that is his mother not yours! That is bull "that it goes in one ear and out the other" you are his soon to be wife, and you now come first, so he needs to stand up for you and tell her to respect your boundaries, and this is something that you and him need to seriously discuss, once he has set her straight, I guarentee it will get better! Now as for your baby shower and wedding! Do NOT let her take over, this is your moment and your time, she does not control you and if you allow her to continue to think she does, its going to be hell when you have the baby (trust me I know). So enjoy yourself, talk with your family and plan the way YOU want to, and then let her know! She doesn't run you, so she can't make decisions for you. I know that you want to respect your elders and not hurt her feelings, but at the same time you have to stand up for yourself or else you will be miserable! You may want to have a nice dinner with you, your fiancee, and your mil and tell her what you need her to respect! Trust me things will get better! Congrats on the baby and the wedding! Oh ya, and please if its one thing I can reccomend for marriage it is to make time for counseling! Marriage is one the hardest things you will come across in life, and just like you need to practice for a triathalon or test, you need to practice and study for marriage! It teaches you how to respect each others positions is marriage and how to listen and communicate! Its the best thing you can do! Good luck!